I don’t have access to my own money anymore – he gives me what he thinks I need.

Family pictures hanging on a wall

“Everything’s got to be done to his timetable, I need to pick him up after work and I need to be there five minutes before he comes out, so our car is the first thing he sees. His meals need to be ready at the same time every night and that’s really hard. I stopped working after I had our daughter and I don’t have access to my own money anymore – he gives me what he thinks I need, but I’m expected to buy stuff for them as well. My heart sinks every time the kids need shoes. He’s paranoid about the heating bills, so I’ve worked out exactly when the heating needs to come on to reach the temperature he wants. It’s a nightmare when the temperature changes though.”