Ways you can stay safe
We know that you might be worried about self-isolating with someone who is harming you.
Below are some suggestions from SafeLives, a UK Wide Charity, to help you think about what you might do over the coming weeks to stay safe.
You are not alone in this. Remember that you are an expert in your own situation and only take on advice that feels safe and relevant to you. It is important to try and think about the things that may change or make you more unsafe, especially thinking through now how you might get help if you need it.
Below are things you might want to think about:
- Support from family, friends and neighbours – Can you FaceTime or call someone you trust? Can you talk to them about what you are experiencing and what your concerns are?
- Could you set up with someone you trust a check in call so you know that someone will contact you at certain times of the week.
- Have a code word/sign to signal you are in danger – set this up for family and friends to let them know by text/FaceTime/Skype. The code will need to alert them to contact the police if you are in danger. Teach the code to children who are old enough to understand what you are asking of them and why.
Safety planning suggestions
If you had to leave in an emergency do you know where you would go? Remember many shops/restaurants/pubs will be shut.
If someone you trust is doing your shopping for you could you write a message on the shopping list asking for help?
Have a bag packed ready and if you can, leave this at a trusted friend/family/neighbour’s home. This should contain medical essentials, important documents including passports/driving license.
Use the fact that there are very few online shopping slots available to go to the shop and speak to someone.
The person harming you may use child contact to further control and abuse you. The Lord President has issued guidance on compliance with court orders during the coronavirus outbreak. This is available here.